The Long Distance Struggle

Have you heard of that saying, “Distance makes the heart grow fonder?” Would parting with my favorite stuffed animal for a week make me cherish it even more? Usually, that wasn’t always the case. However, human beings are very different from stuffed animals. I feel that distance, if anything is a very complex and challenging aspect of any relationship.

When you are in love with someone and have to be away from them for a while, a lot can happen. Starting off, everything feels like it’s going to be okay. However, a few days pass and you already feel like a part of you is missing. You wake up each morning with such a hollow feeling in your heart.

Based on my experiences, I don’t believe that distance makes your heart any fonder. In fact, distance does the opposite. It can make you very lonely and affect you in such a way that you stop functioning. Growing up as an independent child, this has been a new feeling for me. I’m not used to feeling depressed because of a dependence on an individual. Then again, I haven’t been in love like this. What I’m trying to sort out is that long distance is hard. For both parties. It can be hard to motivate yourself to get up in the morning. Texts and video calls make you miss that person even more. Sometimes you cry yourself to sleep. However, the most important realization I’ve had is, THAT IT’S OKAY. All of that longing and melancholy stems from the strong bond that you have with someone. That bond is all that matters. Focusing on that helps me cope with the distance.

Therefore, for anyone else who is struggling with a long distance relationship, it’s important to remember to:

  1. Relax. Understand that it is okay to be depressed. Make yourself some tea, close your eyes, and just let go. You can also find a unique outlet to turn to whenever you are feeling the depression or loneliness coming on. Don’t let it discourage you, instead create something from it.
  2. Love Yourself. Time apart can be an invaluable opportunity for you to connect with yourself. Even if you are in a relationship, sometimes we all need time to focus on ourselves and reconnect with our souls.
  3. Cherish Memories. Look back on old photos, souvenirs, and stories of your adventures with your significant other. This always brings a smile to my face and allows me to think about the wonderful times we have shared. That way I can be even more excited for when I finally see them.
  4. Keep in Contact. Whether you video call, text, or write letters to each other, a form of contact even when far apart is important. Sending care packages is also a great idea.
  5. Hang in There! Distance doesn’t last forever when two people are in love. You will be together again soon and let that thought motivate you to move towards tomorrow.

This was quite a spontaneous post but I know personally that I needed it. I hope that it provided some comfort to anyone in a similar situation as well.

-Crystal

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